Bill of Rights for Children of Divorce

  1. Children of divorce are entitled to parents who set aside at least 20 minutes every month to discuss, in person or on the phone, the progress and problems of the child or children, and only the children. There should be no recriminations about any other topic, such as money. The child or childrens schoolwork, health, mental state, activities and apparent reaction to the divorce should be the focus of such talks.
  2. Children of divorce are entitled to parents who go out to dinner together with them, if desired by the child, on birthdays or other important holidays. The parents should also go to school events important to the child.
  3. Children are entitled to have separated parents who refrain from any action that would seem to force the child or children to take sides.
  4. Children of divorce are entitled to have separated parents who do not belittle the other parent in front of the child or children.
  5. Children of divorce are entitled to be free from any sense of pressure from either parent to serve as informant about the ex-partners spending, dating or other activities. If the child or children freely choose to chat about the other parent, that is up to the child or children.
  6. Children of divorce are entitled to have complete freedom to phone, text or communicate with the other parent. The childs or childrens parents will also agree to allow each parent to talk with the child or children at least once a week.
  7. Children of divorce are entitled to have parents who agree to notify each other in all emergencies or important events involving the child or children.
  8. Children of divorce are entitled to have parents who by agreement are civil and avoid recriminations when they are in the presence of the child or children.
  9. Children of divorce are entitled to not be nade into couriers, carrying messages, threats, or support checks between the parents.